Monday, August 16, 2010

An Evening with Tim Kimmel

Trying to play catch up here... this actually was Thursday!

I forgot paper so I took notes using my phone :-)

We thought he was going to talk about parenting, but his principles apply to marriage as well!

*We (parents/spouse) need to embody God's grace.*
Grace does not mean we get away with murder. There are consequences to actions. But, dealing with our children/spouse in the same manner as Christ deals with us.

How do you do this? Glad you asked!
Picture a house- three stories with a foundation and an attic.

The foundation of your house needs to be God. If you set life/family on anything else, it will not be a stable foundation.

1st story- Meet their 3 driving inner needs
*Know they have a secure love
*Know they have a significant purpose (intrinsic value)
*Know they have a strong hope

2nd story- Have an atmosphere of grace in your home
*Freedom to be different (this includes weird)
*Freedom to be vulnerable
*Freedom to be candid (you can be candid and respectful)
*Freedom to make mistakes

3rd story- Build Character
Faith, Integrity, Poise, Discipline, Endurance, Courage

Attic- Aim them at True Greatness
The world measures success by wealth, beauty, power, fame. Grace measures success by having a humble, grateful, generous, servant's heart.
If you aim your child at true greatness you answer what their mission in life is, who their going to marry, and who their master will be.

Tim and Darcy (his wife) have a website if you want to see further information or resources.

I have read Grace Based Parenting and it has greatly helped in our parenting of our kids, but especially one in particular.

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