So Saturday we (meaning ALL of us) went to a seminar on RAD- reactive attachment disorder. The kids had fun playing and Mr. Incredible and I got a chance to listen to a psychologist and interact with others in our situation. The main resources for the seminar were the books Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control and The Primal Wound. They even gave us copies of these books! A lot of what was said came from BCLC. I had started reading this book before (it's a kinda hard read though), but this was Mr. Incredible's first in-depth experience with it. Anyway, they gave background, coping tips and general education for your responses to your child. The major premise is that because of prenatal and perinatal trauma the children who suffer RAD haven't learned to regulate their bodies and that results in symptoms that present as ADHD and being bipolar. You either come from a place of love or fear. Children with RAD come from a place of fear and their anger, fits, noncompliance, stubbornness, lack of empathy/sympathy, etc are because they are afraid. (More details to come in another post.)
Mr. Z had performances for his latest theatrical endeavors on Fri, Sat, and Sun. (we missed church :( )
Monday the kids and I and Super P (our helper) went to a somewhat local science museum. No one was lost, maimed or otherwise injured and a good time was had by all. (You know you're one tough momma when a bed of nails feels relaxing :))
Tuesday was 2 appointments, exercise and 5 grocery store stops to get all the different items that were on the list!
Wednesday we, Mr. Incredible, myself, the kids and Super P, all went to an amusement park!!! We couldn't have done it without three adults- thank you sooooo much Super P!
Thursday (today)- 2 appointments, but one didn't happen :/ (might be calling a boss), exercise, played with Ms. Carrie (counselor), a trip to the library, two stops for video game related "needs", and a stop for some free iced tea!
Friday- nothing! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!!!!! Yeah!!! Mr. Z commented today how he just needed some time at home. I wanted to shout "amen!", but instead calmly replied that Friday he would (watch him want to do something :))!
So why does any of this matter? Because we are broadening Elizabeth's little world a little by a little. Her world has grown so much since the four walls of bars of her crib a mere 10 months and 15 days ago. AND tonight she put two words together for the first time! "night night, Daddy" (I know your thinking that's three! DUH! But the speech therapists count phrases like "night night" and "bye bye" as one word.) Lest we forget Mr. M and his meltdowns... he only came really close twice on Wednesday, but he regained control!!! God is working in his heart and mine. How can going to museums and amusement parks be important?... Well the Bible does talk about the joy of the Lord!
P.S. Those refillable "Seasonal" cups from certain amusement parks are not dishwasher safe. I now know that! "I'm meltiiiiing...." leaps to mind.
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